Another of my male relatives brought home a woman for Christmas who seemed like a modern-day, socially progressive southern belle.She was blonde, full figured, outgoing, and outspoken with a saucy southern accent and friendly, expressive manner.
Women who do go on dates with those men sometimes find out that they’re more interested in dating a skin color or a stereotype than getting to know them as a person.
Personally, you'd get more points from me for if you can quote James Baldwin or if you're knowledgeable about or genuinely interested in learning about my culture beyond popular trends and stereotypes. Johnson wrote for Everyday Feminism: part of Black culture, that has to include learning about the history of what you’re appreciating and about the struggles and achievements of the people you’re borrowing from.
Then you’ll be the kind of ally who’s informed enough to honor our culture in a way that supports us — instead of just taking what you like and hurting our community.
If OKCupid’s studies are anything to go by, black men gave black women the cold shoulder too and vice versa.
A recent study found that black people of all ages were 10 times more likely to initiate contact with white people than other black people.